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AsI think back on the past 24 years of providing couples counseling for gay male relationships, I sometimes get asked what the differences are that I see (in general) in gay male relationships that are (again, in general), different from vertical relationships.
I offer these thoughts to both unpartnered and coupled gay men, based on my perspective of what I’ve seen through the years. My experiences and observations as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist might differ from other gay men, and even other gay male therapists, and we always have to be mindful of not indulging in unfair assumptions, stereotypes, or even prejudices. But since making a relationship serve (which I define, in part, as the relationship’s level of satisfaction for each partner and in its overall longevity and subjective “quality” for each partner) is at least in part based on a skills-building process, skills that I believe are required for a same-sex attracted male relationship to both endure (quantity) and thrive (quality). These are the issues that come up repeatedly in couples counseling sessions:
1. Money– Queer male couples can acquire a lot of dispute around money. Statistically, alabaster men tend to be relatively
About gay male sexuality
Many men report that they had experiences with people of the same sex when they were young. This is often a normal part of exploring their sexuality. Men who go on to describe themselves as ‘same-sex attracted’ or ‘gay’ contain a strong physical and emotional attraction to men that they don’t usually feel for women.
Being a gay guy is natural
There is a lot of pressure from culture for young men to be heterosexual or ‘straight’. This can often lead to feelings of isolation for young men who are lgbtq+ and make them scared to entertainment their sexuality.
It’s important to remember:
- There are gay men in every customs and every country.
- Being gay is just a form of sexuality.
Why some men are gay
There is no real explanation as to why some men are gay and others are not. Although there is no right or erroneous answer to the question, a feasible reason suggested by researchers is that we are born with our sexual orientation.
Knowing whether you’re gay
There is no test or questionnaire you can end that will retort this question for you. If you think you might be gay, it’s important that you:
- Don’t deny your feelings.
- Take your time to explore your sexuality
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Chauncey reconstructs New York's pre-WWII gay community, uncovering a group that was deeply deeply interested in the city's social and cultural scenes.
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Human Gay Male
For gay men who reject gender identity ideology.
Men’s social circles are shrinking. Studies in recent years have shown men today have fewer close friends than men 30 years ago. Some men have no secure friends.
Gay men who reject gender identity ideology can find they lose even their closest friends if they speak out about it, or simply ask questions that don’t go along with the “LGBTQ+” orthodoxy.
In response to this context, HumanGayMale is a source of community for male lover men who reject gender self ideology. We hold a monthly event in London, with recent events starting up in other cities across the UK and worldwide, and an annual conference in January. You can decipher the report from our 2025 conference here.
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