Gay commune

I live in a queer community where we garden naked and own cute Sunday traditions

Before Beau Gordon moved to Northern California, he dreamed of a different life. His friendship group was very male-oriented, and he wanted to surround him with some more diverse energy.

After he got divorced from his ex-husband, his moment arrived: he reconnected with a few old colleagues of his who had bought their own area and started a ‘queer intentional community’ just north of San Francisco. He jumped at the chance, and he’s now been living there, harmoniously, for two years.

‘We want to be in nature, we want to live in a community. It’s about supporting each other and living with your friends in the woods,’ Beau, who is 34 and originally from the UK, tells Metro.co.uk.

The organization, which operates like an LGBTQ+ commune but describes itself more as a ‘queer intentional community,’ owns five acres and has 10 land mates, all of whom have developed a close relationship with one another.

Beau isn’t alone: LGBTQ+ communes have been flourishing for decades as alternative spaces where gender non-conforming people can live together outside of mainstream world, which might not always provide sa

Dreaming About Queer Communes

Growing up as homosexual kids, we envision the city as the only possibility for our emancipation, the only area we can more or less safely live. Once we’ve reached it and got around to it, it’s to the countryside that we turn our attention as a form of escapism, especially in this climate crisis context. Beyond this blurry fantasy, there is a rich history of theorization and experimentation we can all learn from. But first, let’s start by clarifying what’s a gender non-conforming commune.

Although when talking about queer communes, we get a rather specific notion of what they may look love, it is more of an umbrella term that doesn’t tell us much about their actual forms and organizations. There are many different types of queer alternative rural communities, and this article is not an attempt to list them all, nor is it to make a typology, as it would deserve way more than this small online article to do so. But if each community has its own basis, some shared essential characteristics still exist: they are built in rural spaces, function by sharing resources and responsibilities, pursue a non-hierarchal company and are homosexual through their residents, their id

Culture

Activism: Twin Oakers have done a variety of activist function over time. Some members hold become more locally politically active around issues relating to national politics, such as voter registration. We do some amount of self-education around oppression within the community. Past outward-facing activities that members have participated in contain Books Behind Bars (books to incarcerated persons), indigenous rights, women's marches, LGBTQ activism, Black Lives Matter actions, and more. While many individuals at Twin Oaks engage in activist activities, as a community we do not officially endorse any particular course of political activism (i.e. members do this work as individuals, not in the name of community).

Conflict: In any collective of people living or operational together, some amount of dispute is inevitable. At Twin Oaks, there are different types of conflict. Conflict can spring from values differences, from communication difficulties, from different assumptions of what's "normal" or "acceptable", and from having different perspectives on the same set of events. Some conflict is work-related, some is interpersonal. There are different ways we deal wi

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