Struggling with being gay
Internalised homophobia and oppression happens to gay, lesbian and bisexual people, and even heterosexuals, who have learned and been taught that heterosexuality is the norm and “correct way to be”. Hearing and seeing negative depictions of LGB people can lead us to internalise, or seize in, these negative messages. Some LGB people experience from mental distress as a result.
A general meaning of personal worth and also a positive view of your sexual orientation are critical for your mental health. You, appreciate many lesbian, gay and bisexual people, may contain hidden your sexual orientation for a long age. Research carried out in Northern Ireland into the needs of young LGBT people in 2003 revealed that the average age for men to realise their sexual orientation was 12, yet the average age they actually confided in someone was 17. It is during these formative years when people are coming to realize and acknowledge their sexual orientation that internalised homophobia can really affect a person.
Internalised homophobia manifests itself in varying ways that can be linked to mental health. Examples include:
01. Denial of your sexual orientation to yourself and others.
02. Attempts to a
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Mental health support if you're lesbian, gay, bisexual or transitioned (LGBTQ+)
Mental health problems such as depression or self-harm can affect any of us, but they're more common among people who are lesbian, gay, bi and trans (LGBTQ+).
This may be linked to LGBTQ+ people's exposure of discrimination, homophobia or transphobia, bullying, social isolation, or rejection because of their sexuality.
Other things, such as their age, religion, where they live, and their ethnicity can add extra complications to an already difficult situation.
How talking therapy can help
It might not be easy, but getting help with issues you're struggling to deal with on your own is one of the most significant things you can do.
Talking with a therapist who's trained to work with LGBTQ+ people may help with issues such as:
- difficulty accepting your sexual orientation
- coping with other people's reactions to your sexuality
- feeling your body does not reflect your true gender (gender dysphoria)
- transitioning
- low self-esteem
- self-harm
- suicidal thoughts
- depression
- coping with bullying and discrimination
- anger, isolation or rejection from family, friends or your co
“Helping Those Who Battle with Same-Gender Attraction,” Ensign, Oct. 2007, 42–45
A pleasant childish man in his early 20s sat across from me. He had an engaging smile, although he didn’t grin often during our talk. What drew me in was the pain in his eyes.
“I don’t know if I should remain a member of the Church,” he said. “I don’t consider I’m worthy.”
“Why wouldn’t you be worthy?” I asked.
“I’m gay.”
I suppose he idea I would be startled. I wasn’t. “And … ?” I inquired.
A flicker of relief crossed his deal with as he sensed my continued interest. “I’m not attracted to women. I’m attracted to men. I’ve tried to ignore these feelings or change them, but …”
He sighed. “Why am I this way? The feelings are very real.”
I paused, then said, “I need a little more communication before advising you. You see, same-gender attraction is not a sin, but acting on those feelings is—just as it would be with heterosexual feelings. Do you violate the law of chastity?”
He shook his head. “No, I don’t.”
This time I was relieved. “Thank you for wanting to deal with this,” I said. “It takes courage to talk about it, and I honor you for keeping yourself clean.
“As for why you feel as you do,