How do you know if your friend is gay

Someone who is coming out feels close enough to you and trusts you sufficiently to be decent and risk losing you as a friend. It can be difficult to know what to say and what to do to be a supportive friend to someone who has “come out” to you. Below are some suggestions you may wish to follow.

• Thank your companion for having the courage to narrate you. Choosing to tell you means that they contain a great deal of respect and trust for you.
• Don’t evaluate your friend. If you have robust religious or other beliefs about LGBTIQ communitites, keep them to yourself for now. There will be plenty of time in the future for you to think and talk about your beliefs in glow of your friend’s identity.
• Respect your friend’s confidentiality. Allow them the integrity to distribute what they long, when and how they want to.
• Tell your friend that you still care about them, no matter what. Be the friend you possess always been. The main fear for people coming out is that their friends and family will reject them.
• Don’t be too serious. Sensitively worded humor may ease the tension you are both probably feeling.
• Ask questions you may have, but understand that your friend
  

  If someone close to you comes out as lesbian, same-sex attracted, bisexual or gender nonconforming, you may be unsure about how you feel about it or how to respond.

  It is important to authorize the person realize that you still care about them, even if you don’t understand it all straight away.

  Regardless of your initial thoughts or feelings, remember that just because someone identifies as lesbian, homosexual, bisexual or trans, for the most part it doesn’t change who they are or were and doesn’t create them any less of a comrade or family member.

  What is important is that you strive your best to support them, even if you’re unsure how you touch right now, and that you are willing to experiment and learn more about what their sexuality or gender identity means to them.

  My friend/family member has come out as lesbian, lgbtq+ or bisexual

  Think about how you felt about them before they told you – ask yourself why this would change just because they are attracted to people of the same gender or are attracted to more than one gender. Who they are attracted to doesn’t modify who they are as a person.

  It’s OK to permit the person understand that it might take you hour to get used to the concept, but

  Understanding the Situation

  Sexual orientation is a personal matter, and unless your friend explicitly tells you, you can never be 100% sure. However, if you’re wondering whether your friend might be homosexual, either because you suspect they’re struggling with their identity or you think they might possess feelings for you, it’s key to approach the topic with sensitivity and respect.

  Here are some common signs that might signal your friend is gay and how to navigate the situation without making assumptions or making them uncomfortable.

  1. They Avoid Talking About Their Love Life

  If your friend dodges conversations about crushes or relationships but is content talking about every other aspect of their life, it might be because they’re not ready to discuss their sexual orientation.

  Examples:

  • They change the subject when someone asks about their dating life.
  • They rarely mention any romantic interests.
  • They seem uncomfortable when discussing relationships with the opposite gender.

  This doesn’t necessarily mean they’re gay, some people are just private, but if combined with other signs, it might be a clue.

  2. They Show a Strong Interest in LGBTQ+ Topics

  How Do I Help My Gay Friend?

  by D’Ann Davis

  “How do I help my gay friend?”  This is a question we overhear constantly in the Living Hope office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world.  Twenty years ago few Christians asked this question, for few knew any same gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were ignorant to their friend’s struggles.  Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as same-sex attracted or deals with a measure of same gender attractions.  Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of experience where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this scrutinize is of utmost importance in light of the change of our tradition and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly chat about their issues.  So how does one serve a gay-identified friend or SGA friend?

  The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question.  “Does your friend know Jesus?”  This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attempting to help a friend deal with her sexual attractions.  This is because there are two different ro